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Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Made a mess of things?

Posted by Gary on February 29, 2012

Jeremiah 32:27 “Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh; is anything too difficult for Me?”

This post is for people who have realized that they have made a mess of  their lives and perhaps the lives of others. The Bible tells us that “man is born for trouble as sparks fly upward” (Job 5:7) and so it is, we move from trouble to trouble to trouble. Because of the fall, we are prone to sin, prone to do the wrong thing, prone to do the foolish thing, prone to do the very things we know will make us unhappy and miserable.

Sin does more harm than we ever imagine before committing it. One of the devil’s great deceptions is that he doesn’t allow us to see where our disobedience will ultimately lead or the harm it will do to us spiritually, to our lives, to our families and friends. Broken marriages, diseased bodies, lost trust, lost jobs, these are just a few of the items in the pile of mess which is our lives. By the way, if you think this is all morbid and you are doing just fine, let me remind you that you’re dying.

By God’s grace, a person finally comes to the place where they begin to see the damage they have done through their actions (or lack thereof). Sometimes the realization of the mess can be overwhelming. At such times it is not uncommon for people to lose hope, to become convinced that nothing can be done to repair what they have broken. Some sadly choose to end their lives only to find that they have not escaped despair but in most cases, have entered a far more terrible, eternal, despair.

I can remember the time of my initial eye-opening. I can remember the despair. Even now though a Christian for twenty-some years and a pastor, I look around and see the harm my sin and foolishness causes and am apt to lose hope.

Despairing friend, do you believe you have made a mess that God cannot redeem? In the midst of your sadness and despair may I give you some counsel? At first it may seem out of place and a bit painful but it’s just what you need to hear. Read the verse at the head of this post, listen to the question God has asked: “Is anything too difficult for Me?” God is not really asking something here, He is telling us something. What He is telling us is that there is nothing that is too difficult for Him. “Anything” includes you and your mess.

My advice to you in the midst of your despair is that you not flatter yourself. Do you really think that you can break something to the degree that God cannot fix it? Do you think you can create a problem that is beyond His ability to solve? If you think you can, all I can say is that you must think an awful lot of yourself! Trust me…No scratch that- Trust God, you cannot create any situation that is too difficult for Him because there is not anything that is too difficult for the Lord.

“No” you may insist. “It isn’t that I think He can’t fix my mess, I just don’t think I deserve for Him to”. Well, that’s true. But God’s mercy and help have never flowed from our deserving them. Listen to God…

Psalm 50:15 “Call upon Me in the day of trouble; I shall rescue you, and you will honor Me.”

God has actually commanded us to come to Him in our trouble. Why would He do that if He didn’t intend to respond mercifully? So put away thoughts of your worthiness or His willingness.

Before going, let me help you further by telling you that God doesn’t deal with symptoms but with causes. Our messes flow from the condition of our hearts and our relationship with God. If you just want God to take away your mess but don’t want to repent and commit yourself to obeying Him, then I have no hope to offer you.

But, if you are willing to acknowledge that your mess began with you, that the cause underneath is your heart and you want God’s forgiveness and presence in your life than I can promise you on the authority of God’s Word that He will forgive you (1 John 1:9). God will take your mess and redeem it and even cause something wonderful to come from it. This doesn’t necessarily mean that God will take away every consequence of your actions or excuse you from things you need to do to put things right but He will take the mess and reshape it and create from it something that you cannot even imagine.

Yes, God can do this. He will do this. “The things that are impossible with men are possible with God” (Luke 18:27). Don’t confuse impossible for you with impossible for God.


13 Responses to “Made a mess of things?”
  1. Ken says:

    Thank you. I needed that confirmation. I made a lot of mistakes and make a big one this past weekend. I receive God’s grace and mercy today. I repent and ask His forgiveness. I ask that He directs my every step and give me wisdom for this and every situation. In the Name of Jesus.

  2. Neil says:

    Please pray for me – I have messed up a perfect life given to me out of grace In spite of myself and fear that I may lose it forever. It happened because of my deceitful and lustful heart. I never meant to hurt anyone. I don’t know why I am the way I am but I don’t want to be this way any longer – I wish that I could have my old life back, to love an live in the peace that God created for me. The consequences are too great to imagine for me now. I’m here broken and without any option but cries of help because if I lose my family i have lost everything…

    • Rohit says:

      Dear Neil,
      I am praying for you. I can feel what you are going through. You are not alone. There comes a time in life where we just have to let go of things, i mean just give complete control to God. Its putting our faith into action. Its takes alot of courage to just let it be and surrender all to God. We know that things have gone beyond our personal control that is we can no longer control things. The more we try the more things seem to get messed up. So just let it be and trust in God to solve everything. He will solve it. Give Him complete Charge. By doing this you will actually give yourself some space and time to heal. Brother you need time to heal. God will heal when u just stop thinking and surrender things completely to God as if you are not at all concerned about it. In time God will restore all you have lost and He will bless u beyond your own imagination.
      Be still and know that He is God. Dont try to handle things. Its like the more we try to hold things together with our own hands the more things start slipping, like the more harder we try to hold sand in our hands the more falls down. Just hold your peace and See God’s hand doing wonders.
      I pray that our God may bless you and give you the strength to be at peace. Be filled with the love of God.
      God bless you.
      Your friend in Christ,
      Rohit S. Raikar

  3. l says:

    Please pray for me I am struggling alot with my life and I have a big sin that keeps creeping up. I need help from God to forgive me and help me fincially. Life seems to hard right now and I sometimes pray for death.

  4. Sarah says:

    Thank you for this post. I’ve made a tremendous mess of my life. 18 months of hell I lived through and put my kids through while I purged myself and my heart enough to confess my sins and accept Christ as my savior… Roll over car accident that was my fault, my children and I are all okay, no one else was injured thank God… it’s a miracle we lived. Two of my 3 children won’t talk to me, none of them are living with me, lost my job, home, most friends are gone, even my identity as I changed my entire name during this process, and i’m facing criminal charges for the accident now in addition to the DCYF stuff with my children. I’m not perfect. Didn’t invite Christ into my home when they were young. I’ve turned my heart, mind, and soul over to Him now though, repented of every sin, avoiding sin in every way I can, read the Bible daily, attend church, pray constantly… and I do feel a kind of joy inside that I’ve been saved, a bit of His strength comes into me when I pray, to help me walk through whatever mess I’ve made, whatever I have to walk through. Still. I’m begging Him to minimize the criminal aspects as much as possible, and praying for my children to open their hearts to Him… and still very sorrowful that I’ve messed up all of our lives to terribly. I’m trying to have faith that He will work it all to the good, for His glory, and I know He will, but that could still mean that things don’t get fixed the way that I want them to be. I’ve never been in any kind of situation even close to this big of a mess, ever. I’ve sinned all my life of course, never like this… I don’t even know who I was when I look back over the past 18 months. Your post did help me… especially about Him reshaping it all into something I can’t imagine. Since I’ve never been in this deep of a well, or this much trouble, I’ve never had to rely on Him so completely before.

  5. Gary says:

    Thank you for your note. I am so glad to hear of your turning to Christ. Jesus told us that it is not the healthy who need a physician and that He came to seek and save that which was lost. Your situation is one which I had in mind when writing. There are consequences but God is in charge of them. There is nothing from which He cannot bring about good. I will pray for His mercy for you and your family and for His will to be done.

  6. Sarah says:

    I am so grateful that I came across this post. It spoke to my heart and hit at the very core of what I needed to hear. I am sorely ashamed of the decisions I’ve made that has caused damaged to me and my family, and I’ve been afraid to go to GOD for HIS help. Better yet I’m having feelings that I don’t deserve GOD’s help because of this mess I’ve made. Thank you for putting things into perspective through HIS Word in making me realize that GOD is loving and full of mercy, and HE wants to help me. Therefore I will go to HIM, repent, thank HIM for HIS forgiveness and trust HIM even in the consequences, and that I will learn from it and grow from it.

  7. Sarah says:

    Growing in faith and grateful we’re all alive. I need to be patient, trust GOD completely, and let go of the past dreams I had. That’s the hardest part it seems. Trusting that what GOD wants for us will take their place and still bring happiness. I’m learning and growing from it. Some days better than others, like all of us. Thank you for the prayers.

  8. Jason says:

    I know I’m a sinner and I’m in this shape because of me. I was married for 10 years. I’ve got two kids that are awesome. I’ve not been the dad I should be. She filed for divorce in 2003. She remarried and I’ve had bitterness toward them. I’ve quit several jobs and I’ve just laid down. I don’t know what to do. I’m weak and I don’t even consider myself a Christian at this point. I need help and I don’t know how to get out of my mess. Please pray for me.

  9. Connie says:

    Jason, I understand exactly what you’re going through. I have a different situation where I relied on my family to take care of me for years until they finally got fed up, and I have lost them, and everyone else as well. I’m so sad to have affected their lives in such a negative way, due to my actions, yet I also have bitterness toward them for forgetting me. And I have questioned how I can possibly consider myself a Christian when I’m so sinful and selfish. But we ARE Christians. I don’t know in what capacity I am at this point, but I believe that if I’m still praying and still have faith that God will forgive me, and Jesus will never leave me no matter what, I can still be a Christian and He will help me. He said He would never leave us nor forsake us. We have to believe this, and if we do we shouldn’t throw away our confidence (Hebrews 10:35). I think I am nothing and can’t possibly do what is necessary to restore any semblance of financial health to ward off homelessness, and maybe I can’t in my own strength, but I can with Christ’s. Keep the faith with me, and we can both do what we have to do! I’m praying for you and hope things have gotten better. Remember that even if we’re worth nothing in our own eyes, we’re still worth much to the Lord. God Bless.

  10. Patrick says:

    Thank you for speaking the truth! It’s a tough and painful reality when we as Christians see the effects of our sins for what they really are. I’m learning to accept my consequences but yet also understand Jesus Christ forgave me of ALL my sins!! Big or small HE is my saving grace and truly my only hope. After 15 years and much wavering and wandering HE continues to never leave me or give up on me!! Oh how HE loves us and because we are disciplined, chastised, rebuked and corrected we must understand that proves HE loves us deeply. God cares about our hearts being right with HIM not simply that we feel all warm and fuzzy!! I’m finally learning that HIS grace and mercy on me is beyond measure, I cannot even express it in words.

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