Posted by Gary on April 9, 2014
The default reaction of people who cannot defend their belief or actions on their merits is to disparage those who contradict or condemn their position. We have seen this done quite effectively by those from the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transsexual (LGBT) community for some years. The aspersion “homophobia” is drawn like a knife and stuck into every person who condemns homosexuality regardless of the basis for their opposition but this is especially so against Christians who use the Word of God as the basis for their condemnation.
“Homophobia” is defined by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary as follows:
“irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality or homosexuals”
The first accusation made against Christians is that our opposition is irrational. My immediate question is, who gets to define rational? I have sought to demonstrate both here and here that homosexuality is not rational and even condemns itself. If I may say, I have never heard a rational defense against the fact that homosexuality would eradicate itself if it were embraced by all as we can safely do with the male-female relationship.
I would also add that at least the Christian offers two arguments outside himself in condemning homosexuality, first, the Word of God then second, the human body which testifies again and again that homosexuality is not moral or safe. The homosexual on the other hand, can only bring their personal desire to be homosexual to the argument, a desire which comes from within themselves. Is it rational or safe to base one’s position on something inward as opposed to pointing to evidences outside one’s own thinking in establishing a belief system?
Proverbs 21:2 “Every way of a man is right in his own eyes, but the LORD weighs the hearts.”
The fact that the LGBT community has the cultural/media/political trifecta championing their cause does not touch the argument itself. If homosexuality is good and moral why has God condemned it and why is it not safe? Why would the universal practice of homosexuality lead to extinction when the universal union of a man and a woman continues the human race? The homosexual’s personal desire to be homosexual does not address these objections.
The definition of homophobia also includes an accusation of fear, the Christian according to this definition is driven in his thinking and reaction by fear. It is true Christians fear God and this fear of God leads us to oppose homosexuality for He has forbidden it. By the way, fear of God would be a very wise thing for those who sin sexually to embrace given what God’s Word says about the final judgment and the sexually immoral:
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.”
Revelation 21:8 “But the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.”
But Christians do not fear homosexuals as accused in this definition. The word “fear” is used to project onto Christians the irrationality previously mentioned. Christians we are to believe are so governed by fear that they cannot think rightly and end up making harsh, unloving, judgmental responses to homosexuality.
What if it is not fear the Christian possesses but a religious belief based on something outside himself? What if it is not fear but a moral conviction that leads him to oppose in word and action the full force attempt to validate homosexuality in our society? What if it is not fear but concern? What if it is not fear but love? Yes, love for the homosexual whose behavior will ultimately ruin and damn him along with many others. Sodom and Gomorrah cry out to us the warning but we are not listening:
2 Peter 2:4-6 “For if God did not spare angels when they sinned, but cast them into hell and committed them to pits of darkness, reserved for judgment; and did not spare the ancient world, but preserved Noah, a preacher of righteousness, with seven others, when He brought a flood upon the world of the ungodly; and if He condemned the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah to destruction by reducing them to ashes, having made them an example to those who would live ungodly lives thereafter…”
I will die insisting that I love homosexuals more than they love themselves. There is a day coming (Romans 2:16) when God is going to reveal who has told the truth and who has loved and Christians understand that it will not be until that day that we will be vindicated as truth tellers and lovers of mankind.
I do not resent being called homophobic because I am thin-skinned, I understand what happens when you come into the public realm and debate. Trust me, I can’t stand whiners. If you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. I resent being called homophobic because it is not true. I resent being accused of hatred when I know love motivates me. Not love based on my definition or yours, but God’s (1 Corinthians 13).
I cannot claim to have many homosexual friends in my social circle but I have some. Even recently I attended a party of a friend and two known homosexuals that I have met a number of times previously were in attendance. These men were among the first I greeted. As a Christian and a pastor I deliberately approached them, shook their hands and told them I was glad to see them. I was not afraid or filled with hate. I will grant you that I have an ultimate goal of having an opportunity to talk with them about their need of repentance and salvation but this is also my goal with heterosexuals who are immoral, liars, gossips, the proud, lazy, and the self-righteous. All have sinned and have fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23) and need to repent and be saved (Acts 17:30).
I have found that acknowledging my own battle with sin in the form of lust as a heterosexual goes a long way in winning a hearing with those who oppose the Christian faith and likely misunderstand it. I understand if I come only pointing my finger and do not acknowledge that I, like every other fallen creature of Adam, sin sexually, I will never win my hearer. But if I am willing to acknowledge that sin is my battle also and in particular the battle against sexual sin, I find that people are more open to hear the gospel from me. None of this could happen if fear of the homosexual or transparency were governing me.
The label homophobic is quiet simply an attempt to attack the people who oppose homosexuality without dealing with the basis for their opposition. It is easier (and quite effective) to impugn the motives of the person than to face their opposition on its merits.
Of course the hypocrisy in all this is that those who call Christians homophobes become guilty of the very intolerance they claim to oppose for what is the label homophobe but a judgment? While claiming to hate intolerance many from the LGBT condemn Christians and seek to deny them the same freedoms and life choices they demand for themselves. If I as a pastor believe it immoral to officiate a homosexual wedding or as a Christian cake-maker or photographer I find it offensive to use my ability and business to support homosexuality, why should I be coerced into doing so? Is this tolerance?
It seems quite simple to me, it goes something like this…”If you oppose homosexuality, you are guilty of homophobia.” The immediate slap of a label, an immediate judgment, more importantly, an immediate avoidance of true debate of the issue based on an opponent’s point of view. In short, condemnation equals a phobia.
For this reason, I would like to advocate equal treatment in the public discourse. Today I am calling for all those who take part in the public discourse especially those from the LGBT community, politicians, the media and those from the entertainment and sports world to start attaching the label “Christophobic” or “Christophobe” to every person who disagrees with the Christian and his view of homosexuality.
If disagreement and condemnation equals a phobia, then it must also be that those who support homosexuality and disagree with and condemn the Christian view must also be phobic. Remember, condemnation is the sin here, to call anyone’s view, lifestyle or belief wrong is the great and perhaps only sin of our day. If this is so, then it must also be so when the Christian view of homosexuality is condemned and therefore, all who call the Christian view wrong or condemn it are Christophobes and should be called such in a society of equal treatment.
I will gladly admit that not every homosexual that disagrees with me as a Christian is phobic, nor am I desirous to label such a person. However, since this is the standing operating procedure in one direction, fairness demands that it must also be in the other direction. I am certain therefore that those in the media, politicians, movie stars, rock stars and athletes will all immediately begin to employ the term “Christophobic” because they would never be anything but fair.
The simple truth is this, condemnation is not wrong as long as it is the Christian who is being condemned. In every other realm, judging and condemning is wrong and the Christian is called wrong for his condemnations of homosexuality but the Christian himself is fair game for judgment, condemnation and labeling. This is all proof that it is not honesty or merit of argument that prevails with supporters of homosexuality for in the end, they are willing to do the very thing they claim to oppose.
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